You know, something that I'm thinking about lately is the concept of changing your mind. Anyone can change their mind at any time, and I support that. I think changing your mind is a beautiful thing. But this whole conversation comes from a girl that I'm talking to. She was saying, "Let things happen naturally. Let things go this way, or let that happen. Just let things happen."
I was explaining to her that I don't really live like that. I'm not trying to control every part of my life, but when it comes to other people, I try to control as much of my interaction with them as possible. I try to avoid disappointment, because people will disappoint you. So for me, it becomes: what do I need to do, or potentially say, to ensure that a specific outcome is obtained from my interaction with this person? I already have in my mind what I want, or what I don't want, from this person. You already have in your mind what you are willing to do and what you are not willing to do.
So nothing has to just "happen" for you to change your mind. Let's say you decide before a date, "I am not going to sleep with this person." That's it. You've already made your decision before you even went on the date. Nothing at the date should change your mind. You shouldn't go on the date, have a few drinks, feel comfortable because he made you feel comfortable, and then you go and sleep with him. By doing that, you are going against yourself—your higher self. The version of you that, before being influenced, had already made a decision. If you go and sleep with this man after you already made the decision ahead of time that you weren't going to, and then something occurs—let's say y'all start dating three months later, and he's cheating on you or treating you like crap—now you're upset. You're saying, "Oh, I shouldn't have ever slept with him. I don't know why I did that."
Well, your higher self already knew that, which is why I told you not to do it! But you went out on the date, you went to the interaction, and you changed your mind.
On the flip side, let's say you already had it in your mind: "I am going to sleep with him." That's already in your mind before you even go on the date. Now you go on the date, and something happens, and you don't feel comfortable doing it. It's not going to be hard for you to say, "Okay, I'm not doing that." You stick to it. If he pissed you off on the date, or he's nasty, or his teeth are dirty, or whatever happens, you already decide, "Okay, I'm not doing that anymore." But when we have it in our minds not to do something, and then we go into the situation and we force ourselves to do it because something occurred within the interaction—we shouldn't do that. That's what I was trying to explain to her.
This is very different from inspired action. Inspired action is everything. If your higher self tells you to do something, and then you go to the place and you feel inspired action, and something occurs there and your higher self says, "Don't do it anymore," don't do it. If your higher self says, "Yes, let's go to this party," and you get to the party and you're having a good time, but then all of a sudden you get this feeling that it's time to leave—we need to get out of here. Listen to your higher self. It doesn't matter that your higher self told you to go. Clearly, something has altered, or you did the thing that you were supposed to do when you went there, and now it's time to leave. Don't fight against your higher self. Don't fight the inspired action.
Remember, there are three things that dictate our actions: your mind, your flesh (which is your body), or your spirit. Those are the three things that will lead you on any action. Everything that we do in this life is being led by our mind, our body, or our spirit.
I believe you should always listen to your spirit. Your spirit is the most subtle thing, though. When it talks to you, it is not loud. It is not boisterous. It is a very quiet, subtle nudging sensation that comes from deep inside of you. And you have to be really, truly in tune with yourself to really hear and listen to your spirit.
Your mind is almost always the loudest. It is the most flood-you-with-thoughts-and-ideas thing. And your body is not as subtle as your spirit, but it's not as loud as your mind. It just talks to you through physical reactions.
But let's look at what happens when these three aren't aligned. So again, if your mind is like, "I want to talk to this girl," but your spirit is telling you, "No, don't do it." Or maybe your body is saying, "I want to talk to this girl," but your mind is afraid, and your spirit is completely silent. It's not saying anything at all. Then now you have to ask yourself: Am I moving out of fear? Am I doing this thing, or avoiding this thing, out of fear?
And that's what I mean when I say changing your mind. Because a lot of times we're changing our mind from a place of fear. Fear of loss, fear of rejection, fear of something. If you changed your mind from what your higher self originally decided, you need to recognize if fear is the driving force. If I say, "Yeah, I'm going to jump off this bridge and dive into the ocean," and then the fear hits me and says, "Nah, this is probably a bad idea," that's a good fear. That fear is keeping me safe. But if I have it in my mind that I'm not going to jump off the bridge, and I get there, and somebody convinces me to do it, and I go against my original judgment—then that's something different, because I let someone convince me to ignore my first mind.
So don't change your mind based on a situation, and don't change your mind based on fear. Go into situations following your spirit. If my spirit tells me, "Hey, this is what we want out of this interaction, this is what we need from this person," maybe this is how we can get it. Obviously, my mind is going to come up with all kinds of ways for us to get it. So if my spirit says, "Talk to that girl," my mind will say, "Say this, this, and this." But my spirit says, "No, don't say that. Ask her how she's doing today." I'm going to listen to my spirit.
Go into all situations listening to your spirit. Before you do anything, listen to your spirit. It will guide you. It will tell you what to do, what to say, and where to go. It will speak to you about everything in all situations—down to you reading this blog post right now. You either read it because your mind, your flesh, or your spirit led you here.
